Prostitution: An essential service.

Prostitution:  An essential service.

I think prostitution gets an undeserved bad rap from special interest groups and politicians looking for someone to beat up who isn’t going to get much support.  There are many women’s groups out there who would say that prostitutes don’t want to do this kind of work and that they are forced into it and are exploited by men.  That may be the case in some situations, but based on my experience, this is not the case most of the time.  I only know two girls who told me they hated the job, while most of the others said they were happy to be doing it.  One even told me:  “I like cock.”  Many of the girls in this business are in it because they can make some good money from an unending list of men desperate for some sex.  Probably, the men are desperate for companionship, and someone who will listen to them.  The sex is a bonus, but they sure want it.  I know I wanted it.  When I first met that stripper in the bar who gave me a private dance, I knew I wanted it. 

One of my friends once complained to me that he hated the way women controlled sex.  He then said that he wouldn’t pay for it.  I wonder just how much he did pay for it.  (He had been married three times and says he gets along well with all of his ex wives- haha!!!!!)  Someone here is not seeing things clearly.  I have been married for 30 years as of the time of this writing and I get along with my wife.  Unfortunately I no longer have the desire to have sex with her.  She has refused all my efforts to get her to lose some weight. She tells me that she does not like her body, and after a while, I have decided that I did not like it either.  But we still get along.  So I try to be nice to her in other ways:  buy her gifts, take her places, drive her where she needs to go, look after her aging mother’s needs, and basically let her think she is in charge. 

This is where I think that some people like sex and want it, and others say that they like it but really are not interested. 

At this point one might ask, well, why don’t you get yourself a girlfriend?

Well, I did. 

A girlfriend, as opposed to an affair, can be a tricky thing.

With the affair, you can make an arrangement to meet up regularly.  You both agree to have sex, and that satisfies everyone’s needs.  The relationship might include some other benefits such as lunches, and maybe some movies or other entertainment, but the focus could be more on the sex.  You just have to find the right partner.

The girlfriend is different.  She wants to be treated as a girlfriend.  That means romancing, flowers, taking the time to listen to her, and entertaining her.  Sex then, is something you just don’t get right away easily, rather, you have to win it.  A girlfriend rewards you with sex.  I hope she is not stingy.  It is great if you have a loving warm relationship.  There is nothing like that.  But you might want to take a look at your goals, and determine whether you have all the time to do all these things. Remember, you still have a wife and your other family obligations.  If you’re working, time will be at a premium.  You may not get the results you are seeking.  That could lead to a lot of frustration.  So in my view, a prostitute is way more efficient. You get the maximum value for your money, and your time.  No fights and no arguments either.

I was having lunch with my girlfriend the other day and she mentioned that a friend of hers was told by another woman that all men think about is sex.  No kidding!  We like it and we are programmed for it.  Women on the other hand are programmed to keep sex scarce so as not to devalue its currency.  This drives men crazy.  For that we need an outlet.  Prostitution should be encouraged and legal. In fact, perhaps they should be declared an essential service. 

There should be government run brothels for both men and women, including lesbian, gay and transgendered people.  The state could pay for everything including health checks for all participants.

This would also be the perfect opportunity to provide training and job skills for those girls in the business who do not have any other social skills.  A state run brothel will require maids, cleaners, accountants,  and other skilled workers.  This will be an opportunity to provide these people with training under government auspices and will give these people needed job skills so they can possibly get out of the business if they want.  It would be set up in a situation where many of them feel comfortable.  I am sure that in some cases, a lot of the workers in this field do this because they have a lack of education or appropriate opportunities to choose a different occupation.  Some of them may also have mental issues, and perhaps have difficulty working in the normal world.  Give them some skills and they might succeed. 

In many respects, having access to sex is as vital as eating, having accommodation, and water and sewage systems.  Without these, society would devolve into anarchy.  (When you look at the current states of upheaval in the Muslim world, do you wonder how much is due to sex?  Or the lack of it for the males?  Don’t tell me I am crazy!  Both Boca Haram and Isis promise their recruits wives.  Obviously something is missing in their lives! ) 

Happy men do not want to fight.  Men who are getting laid regularly are too tired to fight.  But they are free to focus on creative wealth building strategies that could make for a better world.  The economic activity generated by this would more than pay for the cost of providing the service for free.  In addition, it would lower the unemployment rate.  

If all the men are getting enough sex, my theory is that there wouldn’t be any more wars.  The men would be too tired and way too happy to want to fight.  Actually, when there are too many men and not enough women, that creates conditions for war. It has been suggested that the reason for the British expansion and empire building in the 1700’s was because they had too many men at home without wives, and might cause political instability.  Send them away to conquer new lands and that solves the problem!  The Romans didn’t have enough women at one time and waged war on the Sabines.  The Rape of the Sabines was famous in history as the Roman men took the women home to be their wives. It will be interesting to see whether China expands militarily in the next ten years (2016) because they have too many men who cannot find wives. That is not good. 

Another friend of mine recently returned from Asia and spent the last week of his holidays visiting every brothel he could, twice a day.  He was telling me how rejuvenated he was.  But he also told me that many of the girls came from towns where there were no prospects for themselves, and their families were not well off.  The only way they could support the families was to go into this business where they could make far more money than they would ever make working for Foxcomm or some other such manufacturer.  They would send the money back to their families.  They would also save enough money so that they could go home and start a business.  They would need to because it was feared that no man would ever marry them.  I am not sure if that would be the case totally, but it does show that the girls can earn money because men want the service.  And men are willing to pay.  A factory girl who could earn $ 100 a day in North America, could earn 4 times that amount in a day in a massage parlour.  I have known massage girls who told me they could earn $ 400 minimum.  One gal even told me she could make $ 1500 a night. Beats minimum wage!  Other fellows have also told me that the girls they met only plan to be in the business for a while, save up some cash and then start a business.
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