The Language of Love

The Language of Love

Sometimes, it is confusing to figure out the signals a woman is sending you.  You are wondering whether she is interested in starting a sexual relationship with you, but you don't want to risk embarrassing yourself or her. So you both miss out and she goes elsewhere looking for a guy with better communication skills.  

You can of course just opt for the direct approach.  "You wanna go to bed?" You could get slapped and ruin the friendship, or you could get lucky.  Me, I would rather try the more subtle approach.  By that I mean that I want the lady to make some moves to show that she is receptive to enjoying some intimate behavior with me. 

Most likely she is not going to grab my crotch, or throw me down on the floor and jump on me, or even take off her clothes for me. Most would be too sober in the first place, and also, I find, they prefer to be somewhat modest and not disclose to the world that they want to engage like a wanton whore. 

So what are the signs that I look for?

Listen carefully to what they say.  

If a woman says:  "You are a handsome man.", then that means she is definitely interested and wants you to engage further with her.   A good response is:  "You are a very attractive woman and I am very interested in you."  At that point you should be able to both go someplace private and begin some intimate activities. 

Another phrase to listen for is: "I am really enjoying this friendship."  A good lead on question on your part would be:  "Me too, I wonder what we could do to make it more enjoyable?"  She should come up with a suggestion pretty damn quickly.  And the best part is, it was her idea.  

Or how about this:  "I really like what you have been doing for me; if there is anything you want, and I mean anything at all, it's yours."  What you might have figured out here is that women are not very direct.   They sure like to beat around the bush.  But that statement is about as direct as most women will get without being afraid of being a vamp.  You just have to recognize it and be ready to give them an indication that you are interested. "Well, there is one thing that you could do for me, something that only you could do, and I would be very interested in doing it with you." Then just ask her if you can go to bed with her. 

I have had the occasional woman plant a kiss on my lips. I thought that was a pretty good invitation to engage intimately with her.  That happens less often than the other above mentioned phrases. 

Once I was sitting drinking a beer with a friend after a badminton match and she did take her finger and touch the bare skin of my upper thigh.   I touched her back in the same place on her thigh, gently, as she had touched me.  Well, the rest is history.  

Lets face it. Without a little love in your life, things can be very unexciting.  Look for the signs and you can open doors that perhaps you thought were closed.  

All of this is explained in my book, The Pecker Helper Handbook, essential reading for any guy who wants to make sure he is going to have a great sex life for all of his life, not just until he is forty.  The book is available at Kobo, Nook, Barnes and Noble and other e retailers.


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