Multiple sex partners? Best Practices:

Not all of us have the same sexual drive.  This can be a problem, especially if your partner eventually seems to have a different requirement from you.  This article is written from the perspective that you want more, and they want less. What do you do?

Depending on what you want out of the relationship, you may have gone into the relationship knowing that your partner has a lower libido than you do.  In that case, you may already have a number of sexual partners whom you want to keep around for emergencies.  Let's say for arguments sake that there is nothing wrong with that arrangement.  Even if you are in a swinging relationship, perhaps the following suggestions would be useful. 

What are the best practices going forward?

It would be wise to keep this from your partner.  You do not want any jealousies to flare up which could ruin your primary relationship.  

It might make sense to keep your other partners outside of the social circles of you and your partner.  That way they may never cross and hopefully, other people in your social circles will not clue into it.  You hear the stories of people who end up romancing their partners best friend, or someone close to them.  Honestly, the pleasure gained is not worth the heartbreak that will come.  The worst part is that if you and your original partner break up, and you partner up with the friend, then you will never have the complete trust of the new partner because your modus operandi has already been outlined, and now trust will be a huge issue.  

Perhaps practising safe sex would be a good idea, just to ensure that you don't start infecting your partner and creating some awkward moments in that primary relationship. It could be horrible too if the main partner gets pregnant after a secondary partner gets pregnant.  Everything will spiral downward from there.  It would not be worth the pain, and now there will be extra people involved.   

Depending on the relationship with the secondary providers, perhaps you should make sure that they know their status in the relationship. If you are leading them on with professions of true love, someone is going to be awfully hurt if they find out that they are not number one when they thought they were.   And, it might not be the someone you think it will be. And it could be a bunch of someones!  

Anyway, these are a few thoughts on this interesting subject. Your comments are welcome. 

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