Building Confidence with Girls

I am convinced that the reason most guys are not confident with girls is because they do not know what to expect in the way of sex should that ever occur.  More than likely, most girls are in the same boat as the guys, because other than porn, and what you learn from the street, there is no other way to really learn about sex.  Surely to goodness, you don't expect to learn about it in school with some hands on experience, correct?  

That is why God invented escorts.  For a young guy who has no idea how to go about doing things with a woman, an escort can be a godsend.  They can teach him all the little things he needs to know, particularly about a woman's body, but also about how to approach a woman and how to be nice to a woman.  Remember now, these girls are women and people too!  They can help in the important areas outside of sex, that is feelings, demeanor, manners, and other things. While the physical side is important, if you don't know the other stuff, you won't get close to the physical stuff.  

Normally, most guys would learn about this stuff with a girlfriend, and perhaps that is the way it should be.  But what if a guy is so shy that he cannot even get that far?  That is where an escort can take out the mystification and get him going in the right direction.  Something to think about. 

All of this is explained in my book, The Pecker Helper Handbook, essential reading for any guy who wants to make sure he is going to have a great sex life for all of his life, not just until he is forty.  The book is available at Kobo, Nook, Barnes and Noble and other e retailers.

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What good is long-term financial planning without long-term sexual health planning?

What good is long-term financial planning without long-term sexual health planning?

Wouldn't it be horrible to have tons of money, but no-one to have sex with?
Of course it would.
But, if you engage in long-term financial planning, but neglect long-term sexual health planning, then you could end up wealthy but impotent.
That would be such a waste, particularly when you can engage sexually at any age as long as there is interest and all the parts are working.
I personally know ladies in their eighties who don't mind a little attention from a friend or two.  There are many famous men who fathered children in their seventies.
You may not want to father children in your eighth decade, but if you want to enjoy some fun time with a partner, either younger or older you should be doing a couple of things.
Watch your cholesterol levels for sure.  Erectile dysfunction is nothing more than blocked arteries, and they get blocked first because they are small.  That means the big arteries are well on their way to being blocked and you are on your way to a stroke.
Diet and exercise is the best way to ensure that arteries don't get blocked and your erections function normally.
Dieting doesn't mean losing weight, although the smaller your gut, the more blood for the penis when you need it.  There are some good simple tests to make sure your waist is the right size for you.  Strip naked, Look straight ahead and look down without bending forward.  If you can see the family jewels, then your waist is the right size.
Exercise does not mean running a marathon every day.  Just make sure you have some good physical activity daily, and that in combination with some proper nutrition, (a better diet) should do the trick.
Even if you are a teenager, you want to be aware of this now.  Don't let that lithe body deteriorate.  Keep it looking good.  Get into the habit now.  It is a good habit for life.
You don't need drugs to keep everything working.  You do need some good food choices.
You may also need to get some more interesting partners.  That is why God created escorts.  These are women who can also help you develop sexual confidence.  They really do make for a better lifestyle.

All of this is explained in my book, The Pecker Helper Handbook, essential reading for any guy who wants to make sure he is going to have a great sex life for all of his life, not just until he is forty.  The book is available at Kobo, Nook, Barnes and Noble and other e retailers.
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Getting Older but Looking Younger!

Getting older but looking younger! 

I must be one of those really lucky guys.  Most people cannot guess my age.  Even though my hair is streaked with grey, a la George Clooney,  or better still, that American Gigolo actor,  Richard Gere,  they still put me about 16 years younger than I am.  Now, it is also possible that these people are just trying to be nice, and of course, I am gullible, but it happens enough to make me think that something good might be working for me. 

The question is:  What am I doing right? 

I will answer by way of two stories. 

The first story is about something that happens everyday in my house.  Whenever I come home, no matter when, my dog comes charging down the stairs to see me.   He always comes down the stairs, wagging his tail, and with a big smile on his face. This little dog, (one of two that I have), is a chihuahua, and is 9 years old in people years, about 60 in dog years, but everyone thinks he is a puppy.  Of course, when he smiles, I smile.  And that smile is the thing that keeps me young looking, or at least it is one of them. 

The second story is a little more complicated.  I like to garden.  In the garden are different kinds of plants. Some of them flower for a short period of time and others flower the whole summer long.  Those that flower all summer need some special treatment.  If the flower gets inseminated by the pollen coming off a bee or from the wind, the flower immediately goes into seed making mode.  The plant’s main goal then is to nuture the baby, and so now that it is pregnant, it no longer needs the beautiful flower that made it so interesting in the first place.  Now if all the other flowers get inseminated, then the entire plant goes into seed making mode, and looks like hell!  There is an expression for that. It is called “going to seed”.  Now that is something you do not want to do. To make the flower look better longer, we deadhead, or pinch the faded blooms.  That sends a message to the flower's brain that says: " I need to make myself more attractive to attract attention from the bees" (ie, lovers).  

As we age, we get full of aches and pains, our metablolism slows down, we gain weight and before you know it, we are having less sex, and we start to look like we are going to seed.  How do you prevent this. 

The first thing to do is to keep smiling.  A smile is the sexiest thing you can do.  People like it because it means you are friendly, and they will look more favourably upon you. 

Secondly, you want to make sure you are still in the game.  That means, you should be in some way engaging in sex of some sort. 

There were five boys in my family, and I was the oldest. Four of us married.  One did not.  He in fact was two years younger than me and looked after my dad. People looked at him and actually thought he was older than me.  One day however, he surprised us and announced he was getting married to a girl about half his age. It didn’t take long, but soon he started looking younger again.  Why did he start looking younger?  He was back in the game.  He started having more sex than he had been getting when he was single.  To my eyes, this is proof that having sex makes you younger looking.  And you know something else?  He was smiling a lot too!  There you go! 

Any form of sex will do: fantasizing, masturbating, kissing, being in love, ogling, and most importantly, engaging in intercourse.  Of course, it helps to have a partner that you are still interested in.  I notice that those people who are in their second and third marriages might be happier than those that are still in their first marriages.  That is probably because they have not grown used to their partner.  But what if you have been married for a long time, say thirty years like me, and are really not excited enough by your partner to have sex?  There is a solution and it is all spelled out in my book, The Pecker Helper Handbook, which you can get as an e-book from Kobo, Nook or Barnes and Noble, or even right here:  The Pecker Helper Handbook

The most important thing to remember is that to keep looking younger, you have to be in the game.  Now you know what you have to do.  Go do it and be young.

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The Hidden Message in Erectile Dysfunction

The Hidden Message in Erectile Dysfunction

So you’re all set with your significant other, and ready for a really good time and then it happens:  you can’t get it up. 

It happens to all of us. And it is nothing to be ashamed of either.  There can be all kinds of reasons for it.  You drank too much alcohol.  You ate too much food and your stomach needs the blood to digest it.  You’re too tired.  You masturbated too many times earlier today thinking about the big event tonight and you’re out of energy. Your smoking is catching up to you.   Or maybe even, you’re just a bit too familiar now with your partner and the thrill is gone. 

Whatever the reason, it is not the end of the world.  Just rest and try again later. 

If it happens occasionally, that is to be expected as we age.  (Although, a recent article in a national newspaper suggested that even college students are having ED issues!  But likely that is more about stress, nervousness and lack of experience, I hope!) 

If it starts happening all the time, then maybe you should tell your doctor.  

Erectile Dysfunction is a product of not enough blood getting into the penile arteries.  The question is why?  While it could be lack of desire, if it is happening all the time,  then, maybe there is another reason, something more pernicious.

As we get older, our doctors do their utmost to keep us healthier and alive.  Often that means putting you on drug regimens.  But did you know that many of those drugs actually can cause the ED we don’t want?  For instance, few people are aware that the statin drugs so widely used today to lower blood cholesterol also decrease the production of the male hormone testosterone. Diuretics, blood pressure medication, cimetidine, marijuana and chemotherapy also trigger ED. All told there are 48 drugs that hinder an erection.

The really bad news, however, is that your arteries could be blocked by cholesterol buildup.  Penile arteries are smaller by comparison to the other arteries in your body, and as a result can become blocked by fatty deposits long before the major arteries do.  What does that mean?  According to Dr. Gerald Brock, a London, Ontario urologist, ED is a good predictor of heart disease.  In fact, a steady bout of ED could indicate that a stroke, or a heart attack is likely within the next three years.  You can find more on this by visiting the docgiff.com website, where Dr. Ken Walker writes about erectile dysfunction and many other areas on general health.  That is where the reference to Dr. Gerald Brock originated. 

The good news is that if you treat it as an early warning system, then, no matter what your age, you can put a program in place to reverse your ED, which could save your life. 

I am not your doctor, so you should check with your doctor for his advice. 

But there are some simple and easy things you can do to clear up your arteries and reverse your ED.  The time to start is now.  If you want to know what one fellow did to reverse his ED, read about it in the e book The Pecker Helper Handbook, available at Nook, Kobo and Barnes and Noble or right here: The Pecker Helper Handbook I will talk more about them in a future article. 

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Bobi D Miles

Author:  The Pecker Helper Handbook

@BobiD6

Summary of the book: Pecker Helper Handbook

Summary of the book:  The Pecker Helper Handbook

This book was written with two thoughts in mind:  how do you deal with erectile dysfunction, and then how do you deal with the declining sexual activity that occurs later in a long marriage, especially if you want to be sexually active, and your spouse does not. 

The author found himself to be in a situation where he was not getting the sex he liked and he was concerned that his performance was faltering.  

He decided to find out the reasons for his sexual failure:  was it too much time in?  was it boredom?  was it familiarity?  was it health related?

He discovered that his real problem was health related.  Erectile dysfunction was a symptom of clogged arteries and that meant that it was an indication that a stroke or heart attack was looming on the horizon.  He did the research and decided he better do something about it. 

He changed his diet, adjusted his exercise routine, and then decided to explore the possibilities of finding some new sex partners. 

He did not want to leave his marriage, but since he and his wife were not longer having sex, he didn't feel that had to do without. 

The book shows what he did, the results he achieved, and how it could work for any male who finds himself in the same situation.  

The writing style is easy to read, and flows well. There is a minimum of scientific jargon. Mostly, it is the kind of conversation that a bunch of guys could have over a beer.  

Better health, better sex and and happier lifestyle are the result.  

Currently, the book is available as an e-book at:  The Pecker Helper Handbook.

This book is also available at Kobo, Barnes and Noble, iBooks, and a number of other e book publishers. 

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My Girlfriend is cute but doesn't go to the gym. From Rae Monroe VIP blog on Tumblir.

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Anonymous asked: My girlfriend is cute but doesn't go to the gym, she's starting to gain weight and her ass isn't as toned anymore, is there a way I can suggest she hit the gym without getting her ire?

First off - You should appreciate your gf just the way she is. I’m going to give you a suggestion but just know deep down that I feel trying to manipulate her is wrong, but even worse would be you approaching this the wrong way and potentially hurting her feelings or ruining your relationship due to a misunderstanding. 

First, go to her dresser or closet and find something that “used” to fit her well and check the size. Now, go shopping and buy her an outfit or article of clothing in that size. Something you KNOW she will love. Next, get that shit gift wrapped, and buy her flowers and tell her you have a surprise for her for the weekend. Book a date out at a nice theater or something cool and when she opens the box she will be elated, but upset because IT DOESN’T FIT.

This is where you need to be the best bf ever and reassure her you LOVE HER just the way she is and you can return it for a bigger size. Then, tell her to put on something different that makes her feel beautiful and take her out on the date. 

The next day BUY HER FLOWERS and when you give them to her tell her that you couldn’t stop thinking about how you got the wrong size and that you love her and want her to know she is beautiful. 

More often than not the simple act of acceptance can galvanize someone’s desire to make a change. If during the course of this she brings up going to the gym DO NOT jump on it. Just be like, “Well baby if that’s something you want to do that would be great, I’d love to be able to go workout with you. It would just be one more way for us to spend time together.”

Look, that’s how I would handle it if I had a gf I wanted to encourage to go to the gym without seeming like an insensitive dick. While you may want her to work out, she may just be comfortable in your relationship and not think that you’re disappointed with how she looks and takes care of herself. 

Hopefully you’re a virile male specimen because if you’re not and you’re asking this question you’re a jackass. Just sayin’. Editor's note:  Hopefully your ass isn't getting too big either or you should both go to the gym!

Note:  If you would like to view a different perpective on this issue, read The Pecker Helper Handbook

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Prostitution: An essential service.

Prostitution:  An essential service.

I think prostitution gets an undeserved bad rap from special interest groups and politicians looking for someone to beat up who isn’t going to get much support.  There are many women’s groups out there who would say that prostitutes don’t want to do this kind of work and that they are forced into it and are exploited by men.  That may be the case in some situations, but based on my experience, this is not the case most of the time.  I only know two girls who told me they hated the job, while most of the others said they were happy to be doing it.  One even told me:  “I like cock.”  Many of the girls in this business are in it because they can make some good money from an unending list of men desperate for some sex.  Probably, the men are desperate for companionship, and someone who will listen to them.  The sex is a bonus, but they sure want it.  I know I wanted it.  When I first met that stripper in the bar who gave me a private dance, I knew I wanted it. 

One of my friends once complained to me that he hated the way women controlled sex.  He then said that he wouldn’t pay for it.  I wonder just how much he did pay for it.  (He had been married three times and says he gets along well with all of his ex wives- haha!!!!!)  Someone here is not seeing things clearly.  I have been married for 30 years as of the time of this writing and I get along with my wife.  Unfortunately I no longer have the desire to have sex with her.  She has refused all my efforts to get her to lose some weight. She tells me that she does not like her body, and after a while, I have decided that I did not like it either.  But we still get along.  So I try to be nice to her in other ways:  buy her gifts, take her places, drive her where she needs to go, look after her aging mother’s needs, and basically let her think she is in charge. 

This is where I think that some people like sex and want it, and others say that they like it but really are not interested. 

At this point one might ask, well, why don’t you get yourself a girlfriend?

Well, I did. 

A girlfriend, as opposed to an affair, can be a tricky thing.

With the affair, you can make an arrangement to meet up regularly.  You both agree to have sex, and that satisfies everyone’s needs.  The relationship might include some other benefits such as lunches, and maybe some movies or other entertainment, but the focus could be more on the sex.  You just have to find the right partner.

The girlfriend is different.  She wants to be treated as a girlfriend.  That means romancing, flowers, taking the time to listen to her, and entertaining her.  Sex then, is something you just don’t get right away easily, rather, you have to win it.  A girlfriend rewards you with sex.  I hope she is not stingy.  It is great if you have a loving warm relationship.  There is nothing like that.  But you might want to take a look at your goals, and determine whether you have all the time to do all these things. Remember, you still have a wife and your other family obligations.  If you’re working, time will be at a premium.  You may not get the results you are seeking.  That could lead to a lot of frustration.  So in my view, a prostitute is way more efficient. You get the maximum value for your money, and your time.  No fights and no arguments either.

I was having lunch with my girlfriend the other day and she mentioned that a friend of hers was told by another woman that all men think about is sex.  No kidding!  We like it and we are programmed for it.  Women on the other hand are programmed to keep sex scarce so as not to devalue its currency.  This drives men crazy.  For that we need an outlet.  Prostitution should be encouraged and legal. In fact, perhaps they should be declared an essential service. 

There should be government run brothels for both men and women, including lesbian, gay and transgendered people.  The state could pay for everything including health checks for all participants.

This would also be the perfect opportunity to provide training and job skills for those girls in the business who do not have any other social skills.  A state run brothel will require maids, cleaners, accountants,  and other skilled workers.  This will be an opportunity to provide these people with training under government auspices and will give these people needed job skills so they can possibly get out of the business if they want.  It would be set up in a situation where many of them feel comfortable.  I am sure that in some cases, a lot of the workers in this field do this because they have a lack of education or appropriate opportunities to choose a different occupation.  Some of them may also have mental issues, and perhaps have difficulty working in the normal world.  Give them some skills and they might succeed. 

In many respects, having access to sex is as vital as eating, having accommodation, and water and sewage systems.  Without these, society would devolve into anarchy.  (When you look at the current states of upheaval in the Muslim world, do you wonder how much is due to sex?  Or the lack of it for the males?  Don’t tell me I am crazy!  Both Boca Haram and Isis promise their recruits wives.  Obviously something is missing in their lives! ) 

Happy men do not want to fight.  Men who are getting laid regularly are too tired to fight.  But they are free to focus on creative wealth building strategies that could make for a better world.  The economic activity generated by this would more than pay for the cost of providing the service for free.  In addition, it would lower the unemployment rate.  

If all the men are getting enough sex, my theory is that there wouldn’t be any more wars.  The men would be too tired and way too happy to want to fight.  Actually, when there are too many men and not enough women, that creates conditions for war. It has been suggested that the reason for the British expansion and empire building in the 1700’s was because they had too many men at home without wives, and might cause political instability.  Send them away to conquer new lands and that solves the problem!  The Romans didn’t have enough women at one time and waged war on the Sabines.  The Rape of the Sabines was famous in history as the Roman men took the women home to be their wives. It will be interesting to see whether China expands militarily in the next ten years (2016) because they have too many men who cannot find wives. That is not good. 

Another friend of mine recently returned from Asia and spent the last week of his holidays visiting every brothel he could, twice a day.  He was telling me how rejuvenated he was.  But he also told me that many of the girls came from towns where there were no prospects for themselves, and their families were not well off.  The only way they could support the families was to go into this business where they could make far more money than they would ever make working for Foxcomm or some other such manufacturer.  They would send the money back to their families.  They would also save enough money so that they could go home and start a business.  They would need to because it was feared that no man would ever marry them.  I am not sure if that would be the case totally, but it does show that the girls can earn money because men want the service.  And men are willing to pay.  A factory girl who could earn $ 100 a day in North America, could earn 4 times that amount in a day in a massage parlour.  I have known massage girls who told me they could earn $ 400 minimum.  One gal even told me she could make $ 1500 a night. Beats minimum wage!  Other fellows have also told me that the girls they met only plan to be in the business for a while, save up some cash and then start a business.
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